April 17, 2012
I know this quote is going around the blog world, but I really felt compelled to post it here. So perfectly said. Let not the siren song of imagined perfection (what we should do, who we should be) lead us away from our true selves and our true happiness (what we truly want to do, who we truly want to be). Here’s to being true to oneself, with every error and blunder that this entails. I hope you find some great ways to be imperfect today.
quote via Wit + Delight layout by Grown-up Shoes
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March 13, 2012
I never saw this for myself—not so quickly, not so wonderfully. It seemed like a dream too good to be real, so I tried not to dream it at all. There’s a part of me that’s been slowly, secretly growing and is ready to burst out, to shout it from the roof tops as sweet Chelsea would say, to spin around in the sunlight and sing and shine the way it’s always wanted to do; the way I’ve been afraid for it to do.
You see dear reader, I’ve left my job. And as of next Monday, I’ll be working as a full time creative.
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December 19, 2011
As a December baby, and someone prone to reflection and introspection, this time of year has always been meaningful to me. It’s time to take stock of what I’ve seen and how I’ve grown; time to take note of what is working for me and what habits or thoughts can be retired. It’s a hopeful time for that reason, a reminder that I have the power to create more positive thoughts, meaningful relationships and inner peace. That no matter what has come before, I have this moment that I am in right now. But this is easy to forget with the negative beliefs and painful memories that many of us have bouncing around in our brains—beliefs that tell us what we can and cannot do. Beliefs that tell us how much we deserve to be loved or what we can accomplish, how we will fail or how happy we’re allowed to be. This year, I invite you not to stick with a New Year’s resolution {I’m terrible at those}, but to create a new way of thinking. That is, not to let your past or your fear of the future define your present.
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November 1, 2011
Forgiving oneself can be a difficult thing. For some, it seems to come effortlessly. There are those who seem as if they hardly dwell on mistakes or ill-advised decisions, letting them go like a kite’s ribbon slipping through their fingers, sailing upwards on a breeze. And then there are those of us who hold on to the guilt of our mistakes, afraid to let go lest we miss teaching ourselves some “lesson” or perhaps for fear that we’ll make the same mistake again. And so we keep them with us on the ground, carrying them around like a little rock in our shoe that we never quite tap out, afraid to let the rock become a ribbon that can float away. But it doesn’t have to be that way. I believe we can change the way we think about our own mistakes and the forgiveness that we grant ourselves. So, here’s to learning from error, letting it go and moving forward.
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September 28, 2011
Confrontation with a friend is something many of us struggle with. It’s painful and awkward, and I know I’ve failed at it several times in my life. What’s the best way to sit down with a friend and tell them how you feel? It’s a difficult situation to navigate and sometimes it’s impossible to know the right thing is to do. Learning from my own mistakes, I’ve tried to put together some basic guidelines that I think every confrontation could benefit from.
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September 19, 2011
A little about my new workspace and a lot about stress (don’t worry, I tie it all together in the end):
This past weekend my body made it crystal clear that I’ve been taking on way too much…in the form of an anxiety attack. Sigh. I think I’ve discussed on here before that I am prone to a bit of anxiety, and especially dealt with it pretty intensely my junior and senior years at NYU. It’s not a fun thing to deal with, as anyone who has ever had an anxiety attack can tell you, but I’m really proud of myself for having gotten through that particularly tough time and to be able to talk so openly about anxiety to my friends and family and even to all of you readers now. I don’t feel embarrassed or ashamed about it. I don’t feel the need to keep it a secret.
The funny thing is, anxiety attacks can often be caused by the fear of an anxiety attack. Strange, no? It’s the fear that suddenly you will totally lose it in public and everyone will think you’re insane/crazy/a nut. It starts feeling like such a real threat that your body responds as if it is a real threat: your heart races, your palms sweat, your mind starts racing. Suddenly, lunch isn’t just lunch anymore—it’s a code red emergency. The odd thing though, is that I’ve found that these attacks have actually improved people’s views of me. I joke that I never was asked out on more dates than I was during the two years of my life than I was having severe panic attacks. And it’s true! Dudes were walking me to class, holding umbrellas over my head, asking me out on dates, all the while my face is beet red and my palms are sweating (my theory is they thought that it was them that was making so nervous…?) I was discussing this phenomenon with Meagan over the weekend in my post-anxiety attack wrap up…
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July 20, 2011
Ah, the break up–one of life’s inevitabilities that we all face with varying degrees of acceptance and grace. In short, break ups are terrible. Heart wrenching, tear inducing, potentially life changing moments when we find ourselves looking at the world and the person we used to call ours in a very different way. The ways that we handle break ups are different for all of us, individual to our personalities and our former relationships. But the best ways we can help a friend grapple with the end of their relationship are generally universal. Come along with me as we delve into the world of helping a friend through their break up.
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